Pseudo and Friends with Benefits Relationships

We all need or want someone to share our lifetime with. But what will you do, if that someone hasn’t arrived yet? Or you are bound to be alone? Will you be getting someone... just for fun? Just to have "someone" while waiting for the "real one"? No obligations? It’s called “Pseudo Relationship”

I’ve read so many articles online about this kind of relationship. For me, it’s the same as a mutual relation but more audacious. No strings attached, no rights to complain, demand or even get jealous, means you have no right of “ownership at all”.

It’s not easy but I prefer this kind of rapport and based on experience, below are my reasons why I’m into this relationship.

I feel accepted and loved as I am

I tried to have a normal relation with two guys in the past but neither of them worked and in the end it only left me hurt and devastated. You see, in both affair, my “exes” tried to change me to be someone I’m not just to satisfy their desire to be with a woman according to their taste and lifestyle. Finally, both end up in a tactless conclusion, leaving me (first guy) with two kids and (second guy) a broken heart.

Hate Commitments

Having a bad experience from my earlier relationships made me the person I am now. I guess I’m tired and maybe I’m scared to be in a relationship where only one person is satisfied while I’m close to going nuts for being treated not as the way I wanted it. I know it’s a bit ridiculous since I am a girl but in this generation, women have choices and they just have to choose what they think is right for them.

Lust

Apparently, this could be one of the main factors…maybe its too daring for a woman but I do admit I’m enjoying this kind of arrangement. Just being extra careful with everything coz I am not capable of having another kid who doesn’t have a father.

I don’t also mean just banging on with all the guys I’m meeting, of course only with one guy I chose to do “stuff” with. I don’t play around as well – not into that kind of thing.

Being free and open

Well, I can say that it’s fun to be with someone who doesn’t bother you all the time asking what you’re doing and who you’re with. With this set up I can still date others, have time with my friends and enjoy my life without worrying that someone will be mad or upset while I’m out.

We enjoy things together but boundaries are there so I can still do what I want as long as I don’t offend my partner. It’s just a matter of give and take situation.

In general, it really feels good to be in a Pseudo Relationship. Admit it, at one point in my life, I also hoped... that someday my Pseudo partner will be my "real thing" but I’m not really expecting that much – I don’t want to get hurt again. It is hard to get out of it. However, I prepared myself that whatever takes place, it won’t concern me much. At least I shared something special with someone and RESPECT with each other is there. I don’t want anyone or anything to make me unhappy. I won’t let that happen. Been there, done that now I’m over with being too emotional as it didn’t improved my life situation.

For you people who are into this kind of relationship and you have a Pseudo Partner, if you’re not ready for the consequences, I advise on you to have the pluck to end your connection with him/her. It’s not as easy as it seems and not all will have a happy ending.